Make art together

Marriage isn’t perfect.  Sometimes it isn’t pretty.  It is work.   But it is beautiful, meaningful and fulfilling work.  Through messy challenging work comes beautiful art.   Art that cannot be faked or rushed.  Art that takes time, practice, patience, sacrifice and love.  Marriage is art in all it’s messy glory.

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Patience

Is a skill that does not come easy.  It can be difficult to find, hard to maintain and near impossible to teach.  Each day is an opportunity to practice.

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Fuel

Nothing can exist without fuel.  Be very careful of what you put in the tank.  Especially when fueling ideas.

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Shining light

Crafting a child into the person they will become is a great responsibility.  Be careful, be positive.  Be the shining light they aspire to be, not grow to flee.

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Two things

Two mission critical things.   Two ruthlessly evaluated, fat trimmed no bullshit things.  That is all you need to complete each day to have massive impact.

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Bordem…

is the enemy.  I can’t tell you how many people I know or have met don’t know what excites them.  They hate their job, they hate the people they work with but they stay.  They stay mostly because they don’t know what to do next.  They either can’t or won’t do the necessary reflection to figure out what excites them.  I believe that excitement and happiness are synonyms.  If you are continually doing things and that excite you happiness is a necessary by-product.  Spend time reflecting daily.  Think about the things that excite you and find a way to make them part of your daily work.  Comfortably bored is the worst state of existence.

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When it rains it…

pours.  The expression has been ringing true lately.  Sometimes problems and expenses come in buckets.  Dumped on you from some punishing force that revels in your misery.  Or maybe a force that is just trying to keep you in check.  Give you practice.  Make sure you still have what it takes to venture on.

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Is this the condition…

I so feared?  The words of Seneca seem to be an interesting thought in times of transition.  We seek comfort in our work and work environment but do we ever really stop to think about the condition we are so fearful of?  In taking a career risk, what would the absolute worst case scenario really look like?  Would rock bottom really be that bad?  Considering you have your health, how hard would it be to regain your current position, lifestyle, possessions?  What actions could you take immediately to mitigate losses?  How temporary would this condition truly be?

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Finding my Muse

I’ve made a decision.  I am setting out on a journey.  A journey to find my muse.  I don’t mean this in a mythical sense, I mean it in the most practical of senses.  I’ve spent much of my life in an experiment of following the norm.  “Prove the formula” if you will.  I have created what most would view as a successful life for myself.   I am happy, comfortable, stable.  But I have grown to realize that there is one thing that this formula robs us of.  One thing that I hold more precious than any other thing.  That is time.  The formula prepares you for a life of trading time for money.  This is the way the system is designed.  However this formula traps us.  Traps us into debt, bordem, complacency and living with limited vision.  Time is the true source of freedom.  What if we re-wrote the formula replacing time with something more logical, like value.  Then we can free ourselves to pursue passions of the heart, experience the world, see all there is to see and share it with those we hold closest.  Through finding my muse I will re-write this equation and begin a new experiment.

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Conflict

Sometimes the path around conflict was the right path all along.  Sometimes you have to plow right through that shit.

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Kids get it.

If you're ever unsure about how you should live your life just watch a kid. Of course there are adult things we have to do every now and then but if you really think about it most of those can be consolidated, outsourced, or batched. The rest of your time should be spent living like a kid. Be excited, look for wonder, and create.

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Your dream, not theirs.

I find myself caught in the trap of doing constantly. Cleaning, yard work, work work, etc.. The doing is becoming unproductive. The time wasted. Time is the one non-renewable resource in the world. Money and things can all be replaced but time cannot. Spend your time finding ways to conserve time. Busy is the enemy. Productivity is the solution.

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Manliness

Manliness is a funny concept these days.  Don’t cry, be tough, provide, don’t show fear.  These traits have never been exclusive to the male gender but were often considered desirable.  Some of these traits are starting to become taboo.  It is now more common to hear it is ok to be emotional.  It is ok if you are scared.  It has become complicated to raise a man.  To create a man from a boy when the nature of their role in society is in flux.  How much do you push?  How tough do they have to be?  Will society walk all over them?  I believe it is still ok to be manly.  One should not be ashamed of this.  “Manly” traits such as courage, bravery, selflessness, toughness, should be celebrated and encouraged.   It is just as important however that chauvinistic traits are discouraged.  It is a fine line.  I hope I do well walking it.

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Peace

As we get older I think we place a higher priority on peace.  A quite place, time to ourselves, time to just “be”, not “do”.  We place such importance on doing that we forget what it is like to just exist in peace.  Make room for peace.

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